Yesterday, I thought I would reach out and try to connect with fellow hamster-lovers using a forum. Put it this way, my experience was far from a pleasant one (hence I am furiously tapping this out at 1:30am).
All was going well, these people LOVE hamsters, these people are on my wavelength – perfect!
So there is me, typing away. I introduce myself, introduce the hams, post a few pictures and explain the story of the babies, blah blah blah. Its going great! These people, like me, enjoy talking about their hamsters and all that jazz.
Then the criticisms started flowing. I mean this wasn’t just one person disagreeing with an aspect of my ownership; It was as if as soon as one person pointed something out, the floodgates opened and I find myself being bombarded with comments. “Their cage is too small, I’m irresponsible, I should never have done this and that” If anyone of them read half of this blog, or even just spoke to me a little more, they could see Im not some neglectful person who mistreats my hamsters.. I felt so enraged.
NOW, where do I begin.
I join this community of people all with the same interest and I barely have my foot in the door when I get made to feel unwelcome, unconfident and even a little bit guilty!
First off, ‘their cage is too small for syrian hamsters.’ I have nothing to be guilty about -their cage is definitely not too small; its the UKs best selling hamster cage, why the hell would that be if its SOOOOO unsuitable for hamsters hmm? The cage’s description off the Pets at Home website states ‘suitable for dwarf hamster or one syrian’.
I can assure you I will not be rushing out to buy an £80 mansion for each of my hamsters when they are perfectly happy where they are. They have their spacious cage, they have room to run and hide and play – where’s the problem?
I have had many hamsters before Dexter and Eve, all in similar (if not slightly smaller) cages, and they all lived to well over 3 years old. If they are in such cramped and horrible conditions why would they have lived so long and so healthily for that matter?
Another thing, ‘Im so irresponsible for breeding the hamsters. The babies died and its my fault – look what Ive put the mother hamster through!’
Stop. Right. There.
You say you love hamsters? I have lost 13 babies in the past month, you think I don’t feel guilty and upset about that enough without someone telling me I’m irresponsible and in the wrong in the first place for letting her have babies!??!
Sorry but where is the support in that! People breed hamsters all the time and are waaaay less prepared than myself! So to accuse me of all this when I simply shared my story, is hurtful.
My pet lost her babies. I lost 13 pets. A little bit of kindness would go a long way when someone is in that situation, whether you know the person or not!
Instead I get criticized and blamed.
So thank you random stranger for crushing my confidence and thank you again for making me feel guilty about how I treat my pets. Ever heard of the phrase ‘if you dont have anything nice to say…’ ??? I am all for sharing tips and advice on hamster-y stuff but there was absolutely no sense of constructiveness in these comments! Just blunt words.
Apologies for my rant. Needed it off my chest – its what a blog is for right? 😉